Saturday, April 16, 2011

Christ Apparently Lacked Some (Supposed) “People Skills”

A pic from the Mel Gibson movie, "The Passion of
the Christ." Jesus was [is] the most famous person
of all history. Because He was God in human flesh,
He was perfect. So, why didn't Christ's "people
communication skill" reap a better "benefit" than
Him ending up being nailed to a Roman cross? 

Please read the entire message to find out why.
One of the classic books of the 20th Century, was the popular “How To Win Friends And Influence People.” Its author, Dale Carnegie, laid out some interesting principles of human communication. Even today, this book, first published in 1936, is considered to be a premier self-help book, which, if thoroughly “digested,” will go a long way to enhance any individual’s “people skills.”

I have often thought that if any person would have had the perfect ability to “win friends and influence people,” it would be Christ. The historic New Testament Gospels are recorded testimonies to that fact. Christ was most popular –- the miracles and all the healings; and, not to forget, all His teachings, which amazed everyone who heard Him. Conversely, though, that people popularity that began with Christ’s ministry, began to swiftly crumble and, everything turned gruesomely bitter, which culminated in terminating Christ's short life, with crucifiction.

What was it, that finally did Christ in? I know what the Scriptures say, and, I accept its Word, as the explanation. But I was curious as to whether Christ would pass a modern “Human Communications Course” as pioneered by the likes of Dale Carnegie. I grabbed Dale Carnegie’s book from my shelf and began reading:
What are the six ways of making people like you?

What are the twelve ways of winning people to your way of thinking?

What are the nine ways to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment?

I didn’t re-read the book. Rather, I looked at the 3 lists to the above 3 questions, and, for the most part, had to admit, that Christ had naturally practiced all these “principles.” I say – for the most part!

I counted 27 Rules laid out by Carnegie – but as I continued to think about them, I had to quickly admit that Christ “failed” miserably in the practice of some of these “people skill” communication principles. Following is a short list – and, how Christ, miserably “failed.”

Why Christ Eventually "Failed" to be Humanly Popular

Violation of Rule # 5: (Six Ways To Make People Like You): Talk in terms of the other man’s interest.

Violation of Rule # 2: (Twelve Ways To Win People To Your Way Of Thinking): Show respect for the other man’s opinions. Never tell a man he is wrong.

Violation # 9: (Twelve Ways To Win People To Your Way Of Thinking): Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.

Violation # 2: (Nine Ways To Change People Without Giving Offense Or Arousing Resentment): Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.

Do you recognize a common thread among these aforementioned four communication skills and Christ's "failure" to observe them? Read the Gospels and you will be quick to note the run-ins and conflicts that Christ encountered with the very race and religion of people with whom He lived.

Christ obviously violated these Carnegie human communication skills because He was on a mission. His whole life, from birth until death, was a life that was, “Theocentric.” He did nothing to please Himself or selfishly cater to His creature comforts. His stated purpose was to fulfill His heavenly Father’s mission and destiny – being both God’s, [His Divine Father’s] spokesman and ultimate sacrifice:

John 4:34 ; John 5:10 ; John 5:19 ; John 5:30 ; John 6.38 ; John 8:28 ; John 8:42 ; John 8:50 ; John 14:10 ; John 17:4 ; John 12:20-50

The Reason that Humanity (in general) Will Not Accept Christ’s Life, Mission and Message

In the Gospel of John 5:1f Christ makes the comment to the unbelieving crowd: “You search the Scriptures, for in them you think you have eternal life; and these are they which testify of Me. But you are not willing to come to Me that you may have life.” John 5:39-40

God, the Creator, set apart humanity from the animal world, giving mankind special abilities and talents. He gave humanity the most prized possession of “free moral agency.” People will come up with all kinds of excuses for not taking Christ at His Words – even to the point of denying their intellectual faculties when presented with the historical evidences and rationale for the Christian Faith. It isn’t a matter of being intellectually persuaded. It is a matter of the “will.”

When the sinless Christ confronted the people of His day with their sins – He did it directly. He met stubborn resistance. Sinners do not like to be told, that they are damnable sinners. Christ, not only talked about heaven, but more often He related about the place of the damned. He made “no bones” about confronting people with their sins – and it was for this, that His popularity speedily waned.

But what was the ultimate reason that Christ was “done in?” Read the Gospel of John 5:1f – specifically, John 5:15-18. By not willing to accept Christ’s Authority and accept and believe in Him for who He said He was (and is), people make the gravest of mistakes. Remember that I said that Christ’s purpose, life and mission was, “theocentric?” The damning trouble with humanity is, that, humanity is basically, “homocentric.” [“homo,” the Latin for “man,” or “mankind,” and “centric,” -- “self” as opposed to “theo” (God) “centric” (centered)]

It does not take Einstein type brains to figure out why people will stop short of worshipping Jesus Christ as Savior from their sins and ultimate Lord of their lives. People, (in general) are so self-centered and so self absorbed, that they will not submit to anyone higher than themselves.

Friend, is this the case with you? Are you, as the late Francis Shaffer, stated, the “measure of yourself?” Can you not bring yourself to look outside yourself? Are you incapable or just stubbornly refusing to be confronted with the ultimate and eternal sayings of Jesus Christ? Is His birth, life, death, burial and Resurrection from the dead meaningless to you? Why would you accept common (pseudo-scientific) theories like "evolution," of which there are no genealogical historical records, but cannot bring yourself to recognize the historical documents of Scripture?

Friend, I encourage you, as a Christian, and Christian emeritus pastor, to realize your deplorable human condition of sin. Turn from your sins which prevent you from willfully recognizing the truth of Christ and His Words. Make it your highest priority to expose yourself to Christ and His Words. Do not turn away from them. Embrace both Christ and His Words:

“He who believes in the Son has everlasting life; and he who does not believe the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God abides on him.” (Gospel of John 3:36) Also see: Gospel of Matthew 7:13-27

Related Scriptures [below] -- Intended to be utilized in a simple worship format:

Old Testament

Proverbs 6:23 ; Proverbs 8:33 and Isaiah 45:24 – also Isaiah 53:1f – Christ’s purpose and mission prophesied hundreds of years before His birth

New Testament

Gospel of John 5:1f – which includes Christ’s confrontation with unbelieving religious leaders

Epistle of 2 Thessalonians 1:1f – the comforting knowledge by Christ’s followers, of His future 2nd Coming and Judgment

John 15:19 ; Luke 6:26 ; James 4:4 ; 1 John 2:15-17 ; Romans 12:1-2

A Simple Excercise:

Match the Following Christ (Carnegie) “Violations” With the Following Scriptures

Luke 9:57-62 ; Luke 11:29-54 ; John 10:1-39

Talk in terms of the other man’s interest.

Show respect for the other man’s opinions. Never tell a man he is wrong.

Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.


Of Whom Does the Prophet Speak" -- by Victor Buksbazen -- Isaiah 53:1-12 -- an in-depth view of and the prophecy of Christ, hundred of years before his birth. Isaiah 53:1-12 underscores the truthfulness of Divine Revelation as exemplified in the Hebrew and Christian Scriptures.

Pastor (emeritus) Nathan Bickel

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Note: The above message (with minor editing) was previously posted online by Nathan Bickel


  1. Very well said!
    Thank u for this article :)

    1. Anonymous -

      Thank you. I've added (now) this topical message to my growing list of topical messages which will receive some additional pics with captions, internal links and some minor editing. Look for it to be posted anew in the near future..........